Boosting your self-esteem is essential for leading a fulfilling life. Are you tired of constantly feeling like you're not good enough? It's time to change that!
1. Be mindful of your self-talk
Of course, this is often easier said than done. Start by identifying any negative thoughts you have about yourself. Challenge these thoughts by asking questions like "Is it true?" or "Is there any evidence to support this?" Try to look for evidence that’s to the contrary, and when you find it, write it down. More often than not, you'll realize that these negative thoughts are just not true.
2. Don’t believe every negative thought
Your thoughts are just thoughts, not facts. And not every thought you think is true. Remember that it’s possible for your strongly held beliefs to be wrong, even when you’re really convinced of them.
3. Take baby steps
I love affirmations, but sometimes – if you’re in a really negative headspace – affirmations can feel like lies, and make you more adamant about your negative beliefs. Bridging statements, or thoughts that are ever-so-slightly more positive than your own, can be used to plant seeds of doubt in those mean thoughts. So for example if the thought “I’m beautiful” feels challenging or silly to say or hear, instead say “it is possible that I am beautiful even when I don’t feel that way,” or “even though I doubt it, it is possible that I’m not as ugly as I believe I am.”
4. Focus on the positive
Take time to appreciate the things that you already love about yourself. Even if it’s small. Think “I like my lips,” or “I love my eyes,” or “I love that I’m willing to take these steps on learning to love myself better.” As you discover these things, add them to a list of things you love about yourself, and take time to remind yourself of these every day.
5. Stop Comparing Yourself to others
Remember, nobody's perfect, even the people you might find yourself jealous of. Your beauty is unique to anyone else's, and that’s what makes it so special.
6. Have a supportive friend group
Negative people can drain your energy and bring you down. Surround yourself with positive, encouraging relationships, and avoid toxic people who don't build you up.
7. Be kind to yourself
Don't be too hard on yourself when you struggle or fall short. Remember that you're worthy of love and happiness, and treat yourself the way you would want someone to treat the love of your life.